What’s Blocking Your Career Success?

Morgan McKinley November 15, 2013 4 mins read

The 21st century is fast-changing and information-centric. Society is barreling along on an always-shifting track, and more and more people are starting to realize and pursue their own dreams.

Most people, however, are still lost. Many live aimlessly, thinking only one day at a time. Many only put forth half-hearted effort. Many more continue to roll blindly forward, regardless of direction. Through all of these, it can be seen that people are bound in many different types of fetters, unable to free themselves. What is it that keeps what we want always just out of arms reach? Consider the following:

1. Indecisiveness and lack of direction: First, we have to know exactly what it is we want. Many people will fire back that they already know, they don’t need anybody to tell them, and they already understand themselves well enough. If you ask further, however, what they want is always empty and unrealistic. For example, many people say they want more money, to start their own business, to have a bigger house, to wear luxury brands, or to become a celebrity, etc. Is this actually what they really want? In a survey of one hundred people, over eighty respondents were unsure of their life goals, and lived in a state of uncertainty. For the most part, these respondents were all relatively intelligent, and represented the best of their peers. Their problem was not a lack of paths from which to choose, but uncertainty about which one best suited them personally, leaving them oscillating between uncertainty and hesitation. Many of these respondents played important roles at their respective companies, and many received the praise and commendation of their leaders. For the most part, however, they doubted either the correctness of their goals or their ability to realize the goals themselves. This is how time and opportunities slip through our fingers.

2. Oversensitivity and refusing to mature: Growing up is a process of continual development and perception. In this process, we gain life experience and abilities, thus forming our worldview and life values. The atmosphere and environment of our development play a big role in the forging of our individual perceptions. From the moment we leave the comfort of our parents’ home, we begin to interact with the world using our own understanding and knowledge. When individuals deal with issues independently, however, problems sometimes arise. Some people are oversensitive to perceived sleights and injustices, some are overly rigid in their thinking and behavior, some are too suspicious, and some have narrow minds. Some people are inclined to jealousy, burning with envy over the successes of others. Some like to provoke others, talk behind their backs or publicly criticize them.

3. Arrogance and a feeling of specialness: Many people overestimate their own abilities, blaming failures on others and exaggerating their work or study achievements. At the same time, though they may be full of self doubt, they place overly high demands on others. They don’t, however, trust the motives and wishes of other people, leaving them suspicious and wary. They’re also not able to accurately and objectively analyze people and situations, and are frequently emotional and subjective when approaching problems. These types of people have lost their true selves by relinquishing responsibility for their own happiness, entrusting it to other people or to their work. They live in their own created worlds, and bring misery not just to themselves but to all those around them. Self confidence can help an individual in their career development, but too much self confidence can easily turn into conceit or arrogance. This posture is based on falsehoods; not only does it not help us increase our strength, it also makes us stubborn and immature to the point of losing our true selves.

4. Resigning oneself to fate: Though we have dreams, sometimes reality can leave us sighing in disappointment. When the gap between ideals and facts grows too large, it can leave us feeling pessimistic and unconfident. This causes many people to begin to slowly compromise on their original goals and to start to doubt themselves, leaving them feeling inferior. Some people will find any excuse to hide from their own problems. For example, they may convince themselves that everything is up to fate, and their fate or luck is bad. They may convince themselves that they’re intrinsically lacking, and don’t deserve more love or success. Soaking in this mire of negativity, however, will only strengthen this feeling of victimhood. Attributing all our problems to external causes is a simple thing to do. Escaping into our own little bubbles is an easy solution. It removes us from the real process of learning and maturation, however, and robs us of good opportunities for personal development.

The roots of all of these problems can be found within ourselves. When we’re not brave enough to face our true selves and change, or when we don’t even know who these real selves are, we’re doomed to bitter, miserable lives. If you’ve already had this realization, then congratulations—you’ve found the true path to change, improvement and self realization. Be brave, take it.

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